Top Priorities In My Life!

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It is clear that everyone has different priorities, I value things others don't, and vice versa. My life is pretty hectic, so prioritising is important to keeping things on track. So here is (an un-ordered) list of my priorities, there's quite a few here.

Helping Others

Everyone who knows me personally would tell you that I always put others before me. As stupid as this may seem, and cliche even, it is the truth. I have struggled to make friends throughout my life, as many have. I had an unhealthy phase in my childhood where I would assume I would only make friends by doing things for them, such as buying things, doing what they told me, etc. Which obviously ended rather badly for me and my reputation. I'm wise to it now, but at the time I was so convinced that doing these things would make people love me. Though a part of that still resides in me now, I will always help others where necessary and I don't rely on it solely to build friendships, which is a good thing really. I wouldn't encourage this attitude towards others based on my own experiences. I have been known to think ahead of how my actions could affect others instead of my own. I've been in a position where I wanted to leave a toxic relationship, but the best friend of my partner at the time was going through a rough patch, and us breaking up would mean our contact would be compromised. In the end I did end the relationship, and as predicted our contact was cut short due to how unfair it would look if they came to me in support rather than my ex. Though we are still on good terms, we don't speak nearly as much, hardly at all in fact. A part of me does feel although I did let them down, but I did what I had to do.

Helping others makes me feel great about myself. Like "Wow, I can't believe I've impacted someone's life in this way." Why I started up Emily's World was for this very reason. I may not have the best advice but if even one person was helped a little by what they have read, it would have served it's purpose for sure. I'd like to think my helpfulness has made others think twice before judging me and others. If beforehand they didn't have a good impression, this would have been changed now, or so I'd hope. Even during my own rough patches of feeling useless, having no motivation or purpose in life, helping others fulfils all of those. I feel appreciated and like I do have a purpose. Though saying it out loud seems selfish, I like to be needed.


Emily's Favourite Quotes About Helping Others

★ "No one has ever become poor by giving."

★ "The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something."

★ "No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another."

Videos On Helping Others

★ Happiness Is Helping Others - Haytham Ibrahim

★ Helping Others, You Can Be The One - VicoVation

★ All About Helpfulness (Song For Kids About Helping Others) - Harry Kindergarten Music

I found helping others is a great way of managing my emotions as well as helping them with their own. In a time when you're just about holding yourself together, getting a helping hand from any source is the kind of support anyone would need to prevent them from losing control of their emotions, or at least help them control it. You could be that small glimmer of hope someone needs.

Enjoying My Time

Just to clear up the meaning in case the title was a bit elusive, I am not a reckless person and I don't mean going out and getting drunk on a daily basis, trying new things which could put me in danger or anything thrill-seeking, but rather using the time I do have to do exactly what I want. I am considered a 'boring' person. I don't drink, smoke, don't take recreational drugs or enjoy going out much. A good use of my time for example would be relaxing at home with my favourite meal, I am prone to stressing over absolutely nothing and I value time to myself to relax. I'm not typically the sort of person who fears dying, or not being able to do things in the future as I grow old or more unwell, but I like enjoying my time for the present, not for the fear of the future. As ever, this will greatly differ with others, but this is my take on it.

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I appreciate doing things that require little effort, and are good for my mental state of mind above everything else. For example, despite having left school nearly three years ago, I still teach myself more French words and phrases by reading through the dictionary or writing out some things to remember. To some this is pointless, and I guess it is - but it is almost therapeutic for me. I loved learning French at school (as unpopular as it was, it was the exam I did best in, 57/60 in Reading, equivalent to an A*). I miss learning it. Younger me wanted to be a French teacher, but sadly I was pretty poor at other aspects such as my pronunciation and learning prefixes, though at the time at writing this post, I do work with children and adore it! I'm halfway towards my adolescent dream.

Learning is a huge part of how I enjoy my time. Many would say that learning involves a lot of effort and mental concentration to participate, but due to how much it reminds me of my younger days, I really do appreciate times where I can learn something, no matter how random that may be. Some areas of work aren't 'work' for me, as it seems. Leisure activities include video games, browsing the web, adding to this very blog! I enjoy spending time with close family and friends too, but who doesn't? Nature walks around my area are very relaxing, and it's having a pet dog that has brought out this new found love of the outdoors. My dog isn't exactly athletic, but she gets me out of the house and has given me a reason to go out and explore where I live in a different light, whether that be to large fields or forests. All are equally as magical and have fuelled my love of photography too.

Being Positive

We all have become victim to the highs and lows of life. But what's important is to take the lows, and make them at least bearable. I don't wallow over my woes for too long to avoid being in a generally

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bad mood for a long time. At rock bottom I know how awful it was to be stuck in a pit of sadness to the point of thinking there is no way out. This is why staying positive is so important to me. I'm a firm believer that there is always, always, a way through the darkness. From my experiences, I am living proof of that.

A quite clever little tip into short term relief of sadness is to force a smile. Our brains are wired to believe that when we smile, it's because we're happy, and it therefore releases the happy hormones (as spoken in a previous post) and makes us feel happier mentally. I use this method a lot, you can physically feel the warming sensation and adrenaline pumping through as you smile. It is useful for short term relief if you need a little boost, that's for sure.

Positivity is important to me as it has shaped who I have become as a person. I am actually pretty pessimistic in so many areas of my life, but it's what happens inside my mind that counts. Mental health wise, I use positive thoughts to battle away the demons, and it works every single time. Hope is stronger than fear, I am a firm believer of that. Being positive has meant I can begin to influence how other people think and feel for the better. Even when things get tough, I can convince others as I have mentioned previously, that there is positivity at the end of every situation, every cloud has a silver lining. Too many of us match "happy" with "positivity", and yes, in some instances this can be the case, for those who do suffer with low mood, it can be hard for them to feel that way. Positivity isn't solely about happiness, but plenty of other characteristics too, such as being hopeful, motivated and successful. I come under the bracket of being positive as I have a real knack for seeing the best in people despite if their reputation, actions or past are against them. Though this sometimes can backfire, meaning I see people for what I believe them to be rather than who they really are, particularly if they take advantage of my generosity.

"Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can't be done."

Taking Care Of My Health

Many who know me would laugh at this. I don't particularly take care of my diet, eating habits, even my hair, mainly because of the cost. Why would I pay out for conditioner just so my hair isn't as dry? It's not like I'm in the limelight every day of my life. As for dieting, I never really took interest in it. I'm clinically underweight as it is, and although dieting is more surrounding health than weight, I'd rather be unhealthy to keep as much weight on as I possibly could - hard enough with a metabolism as high as mine. I purposely avoid the things that are blatantly unhealthy, such as really sugary food regularly, smoking and drinking alcohol, I don't enjoy them anyway, so it'd be a waste of time getting into these bad habits to begin with. My health contributes to my mental well being too. I have my friends to thank for that. They make me feel incredible every single day (shout out to my friends if they are reading this, aha).

I am definitely a strong sleeper, I never go to sleep after midnight at the latest, and usually bed down between 8:30pm or 9:30pm, as ridiculous it may seem, I've always had a positive sleep routine. I enjoy sleeping early, and waking up early (between 5:00am and 6:00am) - it is so refreshing to wake up from a brilliant night's sleep.

Family

I have a rather large family, but as they all live in various places around the globe, it is often very difficult to keep in contact. I am very close with my parents and grandmother. It is an important thing to have in my life. It is a beautiful thing to be bound to people by blood when they have such inspiring stories to tell about our lives, it is guaranteed that family will always have your back in the most dire of situations, that's what they're there for. It is always very interesting to delve into my

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heritage and see where everyone before my generation came from, lived, and how they developed the generations leading up to the present day.

I still live comfortably at home with my parents, and my grandmother only living a few streets down in case of an emergency. It's a relief to know I have some of my family close by, if I'd ever need it. I bare complete resemblance to both of my parents, in personality for sure. They also value family in their lives. It is a special time when our whole family comes together, typically for a celebration, as there is just so many of us - it is important we all take a photo or two together to cherish. I am guilty of always wanting a photo before returning home.

The only thing I believe is missing from my life is siblings. I am an only child, growing up I was told how great it was, but now I'm getting older, I'm starting to realise that actually, having another sibling to rely on isn't so bad after all. Once my parents have passed on, I will be left with nobody, and that thought scares me. It's the reason I cherish what I have so much now. Every year me and my parents go on holiday in the summer, I couldn't be happier.

Finding Love

I was never really searching for love online, I don't believe in online dating, rather that if you fall in love, you do so in person. You can't be too careful online these days. I always wanted to have the 'childhood sweetheart' kind of relationship, and as many relationships started and ended, once I left school, and then again college, I had nobody, which really knocked me back and got me panicking. I don't exactly go out often, or as usual teenagers do, to nightclubs, restaurants or shopping. So when would I meet someone?

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Either way, finding love is an importance to me. As explained in the last section, without siblings and a partner, I will be completely and utterly alone in the future, and it's a scary prospect to think of. Down the line I definitely want to get married, and have children, and will be looking forward to those times. Find love, but don't look for it. I think those who have found their soul mate are incredibly lucky. Think about it, six billion people in the world, multiple continents and countries, and you have found your soul mate. To many it seems like a long road, I envisioned myself living at home until my thirties, still no closer to finding the one. But your luck may change, so don't give up just yet.

Thinking Of The Future

It's not unhealthy to think of the future, but with a mindset like mine, it's rarely positive thoughts, mainly spouts of panic about totally irrelevant situations which won't happen for years, if ever at all. There are some positives in it, the reason I prioritise it so much is that I love to be organised, and prepared to the point that if a Plan A fails, I have a Plan B, Plan C and so on. I am known for being very uptight with organisation, and without it, my mind would fall to pieces. I have tried to get in a healthier mindset, rather than looking far, far ahead at things which shouldn't be in my mind at the moment, I'll pick something in the next week or so to look forward to, such as days off work, or time to go out. It works wonders. I recommend it to anyone who is like me, and stresses on things far into the future.

Work Life

Work is certainly important to me. As mentioned in earlier posts, at the time of writing, I work with children and I adore coming in every morning not knowing what sorts of personalities I would be spending time with each day. Many of the people I work with are a lot younger, and have other priorities such as education or social events, however I always put work at the top of my list, even when in that position myself. I have always had a strong work ethic, and working with children has made that even more prominent, if I didn't work as I did, would I ever achieve the same satisfaction or passion I do when I come home from work every day? I was never quite sure of what career path I wanted to follow, it varied greatly during my life, from archaeology to songwriting, teaching to graphic design, my sights are clearly all over the place and I'm still stuck with what I want to do. Either way, I know whichever job I pick up, I will work my utter hardest, that's just the kind of person I am.

I probably have a pretty poor balance between work and life, and although many find this a bad mistake, I take pride in knowing I work so hard, even when I'm not expected to. I'd like to believe I inspire others around me to work just as hard.

So, there was a list of my priorities in life. Do you agree with some on this list? Do you have any extra I missed that you would place here?